Follow the script, validate emotions, don’t yell, apologise, remember the mantras, they are just having a hard moment and not giving me a hard time…. you know the stuff.

What about for the woman who is carrying motherhood and the heaviness of it all?
When she reacts and can feel it building, but can’t seem to stop the pattern?
When she feels overwhelmed and the emotions start screaming, but she has to hold it together so her children aren’t **gasp** traumatised? (yes this is common)
For the moments where you are telling yourself you’ve got this, and then all of a sudden controls gone and no ones happy?

You know what you want, the mind has it covered, but being able to actually implement it when the heats hot, the children are loud and you are super overstimulated is a whole other ballgame.

We are so focused on emotionally regulating the children, and often forget the most important thing. We first as women, need to know how to feel emotions and what they actually look like when they rise, before they erupt. Then we can hold theirs differently.

We know to repair when we lose it (which we all will in our own way at times), we know that feelings are important, but what do emotions actually look like for you and do you know what is happening underneath them? Do you know the patterns that are playing out and can you see them from the wider perspective so they can be changed?

Understanding yourself well enough to actually do things differently is a level up in parenting I believe everyone in the home deserves. Emotions are a moment, lets learn to work with them.