The Fire of Motherhood
The space where motherhood begins to feel as good as you know it can
A membership to decondition, be held as you hold others, and to let motherhood shape you into the woman you are behind the mum
Motherhood is relentless, there is no breaks, but there is a magic here that is under appreciated in the fire that burns you into the woman you truly are behind the Mum
Motherhood has a way of bringing parts of you to the surface you didn't know were there.
Your patience gets tested in ways that make no logical sense.
Your anger suddenly shows itself when you are int he pressure cooker there is no break from,
Your expectations from maiden you suddenly go out the window when you have a real life child infront of you and life is asking you to move in the now!
Your patterns in relationships, boundaries and beliefs around yourself get pushed to the surface and there is no more hiding from them.
It can be beautiful, we have all heard the Mum vent then say “but I love my children deeply.”
I know you love your children, and being a Mother but what about yourself here, the woman behind the Mum.
This is what The Fire of Motherhood is truly about.
Coming back to the woman behind the Mum.
The woman motherhood is challenging, changing and forging, and giving her somewhere to be seen, explored, supported and known. From the inside.
I know you care about raising your children well. If you have been:
listening to the podcasts and reading the books but somehow the information does not translate into real life well
revisiting your childhood, knowing why it makes sense it is so hard for you but the patterns are not changing
on a “conscious” journey and feeling like you are going against the grain more often than not
super self aware but it is leaving you lying awake at night wondering what else you need to do to be good and get it right
having the best intentions to remain calm, but keep reacting and exploding in ways that leave you feeling guilt and a little sprinkle of shame
completely thrown into a different reality than maiden you dreamed of, and can feel the fight for it should be different whispering to you
finding relationships and the village harder to maintain, in the home, in yourself and close family
saying I know better than this yet why am I still not “there”
The Fire of Motherhood is trying to show you something, so lets do this so the woman, holding it all, can become herself, now
I need to be clear that this is not another parenting course. You can read the books and listen to the podcasts, there is so much out there. This is the space for the woman to be remade and forged in the fire of motherhood, completely, so she can feel as good as she knows motherhood gets to.
This is for you if you are a Mum who:
knows she loves motherhood, but that she also gets to be important to herself too
has already done some self reflection, inner work and can see the patterns needing extra support to actually shift in reality
wants to go from fixing it, to feeling, living and enjoying it (challenge and all)
is seeking that exhale of pressure to be right coming off, and getting right with what motherhood is showing you
desires more emotional intelligence and regulation in her home, self and relationships
is seeking tools and resources to support her children, her communication and her well-being in the home
feels like she has no one who gets her and is looking for the conversations, direction and community to spark the flames to be fully backing herself in her choices
wants support what is deep, transformative and in real time challenges too
is ready to block out the external noise and go all in on herself, her family and her values
We do not want perfection here, it is not another thing to figure out. The Fire of Motherhood is a willingness to meet each moment as is, then remember, know and feel, like you are handling it right for you,
Asking yourself,
“what is the truth of this moment”
is the start point for things to actually change, and your self leaderships gets to shine in the fire of it all
WHAT YOU WILL GET:
Understand yourself more deeply:
So the patterns, beliefs and reactions you keep finding yourself up against, have you approaching with curiousity and resources to handle easier
A better emotional blueprint in your home:
and yourself, because learning to recognise a feeling, processing it, and then teaching your children to is a super skill everyone needs
Strengthen your self trust:
By facing off with the things trying to burn away, you will find a whole lot more time, energy and capacity to build the life you dream of, and be the woman you desire
Communication skills and clarity:
No more second guessing the scripts and reaching for that logical step. The way you speak to yourself, your children, your loved ones and the internal dialogue gets to be one of love. Once the fire shows you what can no longer come of course
Boundaries and practical parenting support:
because yes parenting does not stop, and fine tuning your approach to be confident, skilled and right for your family is everything
A real life approach:
Bring your arguments, your challenges, the guilt and shame so we can pop it all on the table, and its hold on you will soften, when it is actually worked with
A foundation to change and grow as seasons do:
We all know how fast children change, but so do you (hello matrescence). Having the baseline skillsets be learned, that carry you through for years to come, is worth the time and energy to put into yourself. Life happens, but you are competent to face it
How The Fire of Motherhood works:
The Fire of Motherhood is a 12-month space, with a 3-month minimum commitment.
3 month minimum commitment, or join the full year for a discounted rate
The approach here is working with what is alive, and real for the group of women in the space. We have in each quarter, 3 monthly trainings, 3 coaching calls, 3 decompression space and 3 somatic connection experiences to support you through it all. Yes replays will be available) and 2 days a week voice note support to keep the momentum going while you are out there in the wild.
Motherhood keeps changing. Your children keep changing. So does the woman behind the Mum and she deserves to be supported while she holds everyone else.
The year gives us room to explore different parts of the experience, revisit and deepen things as they come up, and actually see what happens when you take the work into your real life.
Across the year we explore 4 core areas, here are the themes:
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Here we explore all the ways the mind is making motherhood harder than it needs to be. We strip back the shoulds, the guilt and the conditioning, and train your mind to not just think “it is okay” but to actually believe it. Releasing victimhood, resentment, attachment to the story and finding your ability to parent your way, the way your heart and soul is calling for, begins with getting the mind on board with getting out, of, the, way.
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This is where relationships, boundaries and how you speak as a woman come to the forefront. We explore practical ways to parent effectively, learning to speak lovingly but directly and advocating for your needs without being a martyr or diminishing. This quarter is more parent centred, but it is always about you at the centre.
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Parenting takes alot from you, and youve got romantic relationships, co-parenting, in laws, friends to maintain and an entire other area of your already busy like that is socialising, which is a need not a want for your mental health. In this quarter we explore all things relationship, starting with you. We might deepen your relationship to your emotions, actually allowing goodness in your life, or how to speak so your man (or future man) actually hears you. Essential work,that leaves your kids seeing healthy relationships, and a woman who is setting the blueprint of her children future dynamics too
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We all speak of emotional regulation, calm and staying centred, so here we teach you how to actually do this. How to hold your childrens big emotions, without losing it too. The difference between thinking and feeling. Practical ways to process emotions in real time. A toolkit for in motherhood to hold your woman, that role models it for your children and teaches it easier than with words. Emotional intelligence on steroids this one.
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It is important to note, the content will be shaped by the women in the space and what is actually happening in their lives.
Say we are exploring relationships and resentment keeps coming up, we're going there. If we are exploring emotions and everyone is discovering how much guilt is running the show, we'll work with that.
If a theme opens up something completely unexpected? Something needs deeper and longer to click in and change in your world..
We will go where the work takes us!
You have had enough scripts, this is a real life, in the moment membership that will meet you in a way a book could not. Held by a trained ECE teacher, holistic life coach, and a highly intuitive practitioner, we work with what is alive, within the structure. This is the fire showing us what is real. This is the work.
12 Month Membership
A year f returning to yourself for a year, as motherhood shapes you through the fire.
Friday morning or evening call times (mixed)
Online, small group for maximum impact
Monthly workshops, coaching, somatic experiences, and decompression spaces
Voice note access and a practice library to keep connecting with yourself in-between calls
For your children, but for yourself first and foremost.
A minimum 3-month commitment gives you enough time to actually experience the change, rather than dropping in for a quick hit and disappearing back to the same patterns. Spaces are limited
THE 3-MONTH EXPERIENCE
$1,480
For women who want to experience The Fire and decide from there.
THE FULL YEAR
$3,650
For women ready to make this work part of their year, we love commitment to yourself around here x